# Patch things up after an argument with a calm first message

> Pasting the text thread shows what the other person probably heard, which is often not what you meant.

Share what was said, or paste the texts, and get the other person's likely view, the part you can own and a short message that reopens the conversation kindly.

- Page: https://thesolocreators.com/prompts/patch-things-up-after-an-argument/
- Category: Upgrade your everyday
- Made for: Everyone
- Works in: ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini
- Time: About 5 minutes
- Effort: Just copy and paste

## The prompt

Fill in the parts in [square brackets], or leave them and the AI will ask you for them.

```text
I had a falling out with my [WHO IT WAS WITH, e.g. neighbor or sister]. Here's what happened and what we said, as fairly as I can tell it: [WHAT HAPPENED OR PASTED TEXTS]. What I want now: [YOUR GOAL, e.g. stay friends and settle the fence issue].

First, explain how this probably looked from their side, without taking my side. Point out anything I said that may have landed badly and the part I could honestly own. Then write 3 short first messages I could send to reopen things: one warm, one direct and one very brief. No groveling, no blame and no rehashing the whole argument. End with one tip for keeping the next conversation calm.
```

## Step by step

1. Copy the messages, or write down what each of you said as fairly as you can.
2. Paste it into ChatGPT, Claude or Gemini with the prompt.
3. Read the other side's view before you read the draft messages.
4. Edit the message into your own words and wait an hour before sending.

## What you'll get

A neutral read of the other side, the part you can own and three short repair messages in different tones.

## Good to know

**Which AI tools does this work in?** It works in ChatGPT, Claude and Gemini. On this page, ChatGPT and Claude open with your prompt already typed in. No paid plan is noted for this one.

**How long does it take?** About 5 minutes. It's rated "Just copy and paste". There are 4 steps, listed above.

**What do I need before I start?** Just your details for 3 blanks: who it was with, what happened or pasted texts and your goal. You can skip any, and your AI will ask for them.

**What will I get back?** A neutral read of the other side, the part you can own and three short repair messages in different tones.

Idea spotted on the web, shared by Amanda Caswell (Tom's Guide): https://www.tomsguide.com/ai/chatgpt/how-i-use-chatgpt-for-conflict-resolution-and-the-prompts-that-actually-work. The prompt is The Solo Creators' own version.

## Go further

Ready-made skills in the Solo Creators AI Studio (https://thesolocreators.com/studio/) that fit this: TLDR (Your AI stops writing walls of text: every reply leads with the next action, numbered and skimmable); Second Brain (Give your AI a memory it reads across every project, so it finally knows your business).

From AI Use Cases and Prompts by The Solo Creators: https://thesolocreators.com/prompts/. Free to use; please link back to the page when you share it.